The search for this comfort sometimes takes us too far away from ourselves and we go out to seek approval with a basic conviction that ‘I need to do my best to be liked’. Most of us do this to a greater or lesser extent, but it is one of the most serious energy-drainers there is.
When I got divorced, one unexpected surprise was to discover that ‘the way we do things’ no longer existed. The unwritten rules that had become habits in my way of thinking and being, as well as all sorts of little practical things. After years together, many of these things are taken for granted and they keep us within certain comfort zones, where we feel loved and accepted. ‘This is me and I’m ok’ is confirmed by those closest to us who love us as we are.
When such a base is lost, we are suddenly in unchartered waters. We come against the usual confrontations in the world and see people questioning seemingly obvious things we do, without being able to fall back upon the comfort of a shared ‘togetherness’ frequency. We need to re-evaluate our basic structures. This process literally shakes our core beliefs.
In order to adapt, to let go of the old and welcome the new in our lives, we do sometimes need to be willing to question the seemingly obvious in ourselves. We don’t need to get divorced every time, thank Goodness, but we get shaken up in order to observe and to be open and sometimes to tweak our ways so that we are not left behind, stuck in old patterns that have outgrown their purpose.
We can then fully appreciate the new possibilities coming our way.
At the end of yesterday’s birthday party, I saw people one by one let go of the collective frequency in the room and click back into their home frequency and their own energy, as they left to go home.
As singles, as couples, or as little families. The tension release was almost visible in their faces- back to a familiar ‘me’ or ‘us ‘!
With the energy waves that are coming to Earth at this moment, we have little surplus energy to go out of ourselves to meet up with the energies of others. Much as we enjoy being together and we seek the group connection, we also long for the peace of just being ourselves, in our trusted energy space, alone or with a select few, but out of the energetic ‘busyness’ of larger groups.
The obvious answer would seem to stay in our own comfortable energy wherever we are. To stop adapting and just be ourselves, staying grounded and relaxed in the company of the crowds.
It sounds so simple. It is a good endeavour for a new year.