Whatever the reason for losing someone we love, it often leaves us feeling deep pain and emptiness. It can also feel very unfair, for instance if we watched a sick relative suffer or if we went through a messy divorce.
This type of loss leaves us with an intense feeling of hurt, as if some
invisible being is twisting a knife in our heart. We might even experience
it as a punishment and wonder, "What did I do wrong?"
If that is what you are feeling, nobody can take that away from you.
There is no magic wand that will fix it.
What we can do, is look at the feelings involved, honestly feel them and let them pass. In the long run, this is so much healthier than storing the raw pain somewhere where it can block your energy or overwhelm you at very inconvenient moments.
Grief is composed of many different facets. By looking at these together, we can soften the harshness of the experience.
Things that come up are for example:
- The thought that you can no longer talk to the one you lost
- Feeling guilty about something you did or didn't say and now it is too late
- Difficulty handling your emotions
- Discomfort in your body
- Making decisions about the funeral or the ashes
- Tension and disagreement with your siblings, for instance concerning the inheritance
- Fear of your own death and worries about how it is 'on the other side'
- Not being able to sleep or find peace
- Questions about your faith and if Life still has meaning
- Wondering how to move on with your life
- Healing (balancing and recharging your energy so you feel stronger)
- Channelling (talking to the Soul of your loved one)
- Angel reading (talking to the angels about your loved one and the impact of this loss on your life)
My experience is that it is a huge relief when these facets of grief are faced and worked through. The process is not about dismissing the sense of loss, but very much about staying balanced and keeping a healthy perspective, so that you can handle your situation despite the pain you feel.
Are you in this situation? Then we wish you much strength and the courage to trust yourself and the process of Life.
I hope you can feel peace despite the pain and be gentle with yourself.
Would you like some support and a listening ear?
A Combi Session is tailored around your needs at the time.