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Getting sucked into other people's stuff?

21/10/2017

We women are masters at it.
Of course it happens to men too.
And sure there are women who have overcome this pattern.
Still I see women (very much including myself) doing this persistently.

- Maybe, at a group dinner, you defend someone from a belittling comment and end up being the one everyone is upset with...
- You offer to help a colleague with a project and before you know it, everyone is expecting you to complete it…
- Or you might listen to a friend’s sad situation and then find yourself worrying in the middle of the night about how to resolve it....
The female energy is one of receiving and we tend to pull in the bad with the good, without really noticing that it happens. We get sucked right in there and make other people’s problems our own.

Do you recognize any of the following thoughts:

It is up to me to keep things running smoothly…
Well, there’s no point in saying anything NO now, I have always done it…
I am here anyway so it is little trouble…
If I was in their shoes, I’d really appreciate someone doing this for me…
If don’t do it, there will be a confrontation and the whole evening will be ruined...

Or a really deadly one:

Well, they have more important things to do...

As if you don’t…??

And an even deadlier one:

If I don’t do it, they won’t like me…

Which is your favourite justification for hooking into other people’s stuff?

For me I think it comes down to:

Everyone expects it of me…
It is more efficient if I just do it …
I don’t want to whine so I’ll just get on with it…

And let’s be honest, you can’t blame others for being happy with us. We are solving issues, carrying energies and fulfilling needs without ever being asked.
What’s not to love about that?

As long as we stay connected to ourselves and making conscious choices, nothing.
If we do it automatically and repeatedly, it may lead us to carry a whole lot of junk that isn’t ours. And if we do this repeatedly, we lose sight of our own interests, feel small and develop aches and pains.

So speaking for myself, it is a balance I need to keep watching:
Being happy to help when I am truly happy to help AND
Being able to say no when it doesn’t feel right OR
Giving back what I have taken on when I realize it is not for me to solve.

Sounds easy-peasy right? ;-)

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How ‘Mass Consciousness’ Keys experience turbulent energies

2/1/2017

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How do you feel about the energies on Earth at this time?

Are you valiantly keeping going, while inwardly feeling as though you are drowning in a sea of complicated and conflicting emotions, thoughts and energies?

Or is your brave face genuinely optimistic about life right now?

The way you experience ‘messy energies’ may very well be related to your personal Life Mission Keys*, or in other words the themes you have chosen to work on in this lifetime.

Those who have a Key from the Community and Mass Consciousness pillar logically remain connected to the constant flow of input that the Universe is sending them. No amount of shielding can ever truly distance them from the frequency that is being experienced by the world at any one time. Is the world going through turbulent and fearful times?
Then that becomes the base energy felt in the Mass Consciousness and this is constantly felt by the people who have come here to affect its energy- to transform and develop it.
Some ways you may experience this is:

Heavy limbs- the body is continuously trying to process and clear the energies experienced which can lead to extreme tiredness and aching and stiff muscles and other flu-like symptoms.
Sombreness- a general feeling of not being able to see your direction for the future and feeling a sense of meaninglessness. You might feel stuck and fear that nothing you can do will take you any further towards your goals in life.
Waking up frustrated or apathetic- your first thoughts when you wake up may be something along the lines of, “No, I’m not ready. There’s work to be done and I can’t affect it the outcome when I’m on Earth. Let me go back to sleep”
A lot of the work you are doing for Mass Consciousness is done in your sleep- this is where plans are discussed, energies are integrated and the general direction for the future is agreed.
Picture yourself at the most important board meeting of your life and arguing against public opinion as if your life depended on it. And just as you are ready to bring your closing argument, you are pulled out of the ‘dream’ to come back to Earth. This can be extremely frustrating.
Feeling a sense of failure- you came to change the world for the better, so you may feel that you are failing when the general energies are not flowing well. Your mind tries to define this feeling in logical human terms and will spew a seemingly endless stream of thoughts about all the areas in which you could have done better: career, money, studies, relationships etc etc. This is rather like an inner critic gone wild and its intensity can be extremely demotivating and downright limiting if you allow it.
But know that these thoughts are not personal- they swim in the sea of Mass Consciousness energy you have come to cleanse. We all have them. By healing your fears in this area (so you can stand strong even when the voices go amok), you are diminishing their hold on the world as well.

One of my Keys is ‘To Teach’ from the Community and Mass Consciousness pillar, so I know each of these symptoms intimately.

So what can you do when you are felled by these symptoms?
What it boils down to is ‘Failure is not an option’. If you are born within the blue pillar of Community and Mass Consciousness, you are here to affect and transform that energy.
You can’t step away from it and if you choose to dream yourself away and not to be present in your body, you are missing the chance of having your ‘vote’ as it were, by standing up and being counted.
We have been promised some challenging energies in the years to come. It is necessary for these energies to surface so that we can process and cleanse them and leave the Earth a purer place for coming generations. And they might have to surface explosively.

My best advice is to:

Stay grounded and keep breathing
Believe in yourself
Learn to recognize your ego’s voice of criticism and know it isn’t true
Work together with like-minded lightworkers
Seek support when you need it

You are not alone, let’s do this together!

Of course, these energies can affect you, even if you don’t have a Mass Consciousness Key. If you have a green Key from the ‘Earth, Nature, Body, Animals’ pillar, you may feel this intensely too, but for different reasons. We will look into the motivation of the Green Keys in my next blog post.
I’d love to receive your comments and hear how you experience this below.

* The Keys referred to in this text are from the Life Mission Keys MethodTM developed by Henriette Hackenberg. Before you came to Earth your soul picked 2 themes for you to master in this lifetime. This is the reason you came to Earth. We call these 2 themes your Life Mission Keys.
For more information about your Life Mission, go to www.lifetools-academy.com

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September 2016- where are we going?

30/8/2016

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You may have felt the restlessness growing in your mind and body lately.
The feeling of ‘not knowing’ seems to increase, causing any sense of solid ground under your feet to disappear fast.

There are all manner of ways to explain what is special about this time leading into September. I have seen astrological interpretations and channellings coming by. Since I feel these shifts quite acutely and they always make me feel very unsettled, I have also looked and felt into the energies.
It always helps me when I understand the background of what I feel, so maybe this can help you deal with the current and coming energies too.

This time is all about recalibrating the balance between your mind and your heart. For thousands of years we have as a collective consciousness put all the emphasis on our minds. We have respected those who educated their minds and we have believed that the more rational and intelligent we were, the further we would come in our life.

We are now at a turning point because we realize that mental prowess can only take us so far. Stronger still, excessive mental activity can lead to problems such as stress, dis-ease and isolation, especially when we neglect the rest of our energetic bodies.
The Mind is insatiable, it never reaches a point of satisfaction or feeling it has enough. Therefore we can dedicate our whole lives to filling it, without ever reaching a point when we feel it’s ok to let go and apply the knowledge we have accumulated. This means we don’t move on to other aspects in seeking to further our pursuit of balance and happiness. But that is about to change…

Energetically, this coming time is likely to feel as a whirlwind, bringing up all the voices that want to be heard in our system: our physical, emotional and spiritual voices all speaking on par with our mental voice.
You can picture this as 4 individual voices speaking to you at once.

It is no surprise that this feels overwhelming. If there is one thing the Mind loves, it is control and it is difficult to feel that you are in charge when everyone talks at you simultaneously, demanding to be heard and offering different solutions for you to move forward.

Important premises:

There is no black and white truth.
Where your Mind seeks clarity by weighing up rights and wrongs, it is going to fail. As we all know, a failing mind can turn very confused and critical, feeling the need to appoint blame so as to justify its inadequacy. Accept from the outset that you will not have the mental clarity you might desire.
You are dealing with 4 distinct energy streams
The less your 4 energy layers are in alignment generally, the further apart their ‘ideas’ will be. For instance you might;
- Physically feel exhausted and want to hide under your duvet
- Emotionally feel very nostalgic and long for the good old days
- Mentally be clear and desperate to move forward
- Spiritually accept that you are in the perfect position right now
It is all happening simultaneously
Because these four flows will continue to do their own thing, you need to accept that you feel it all at once, for instance:
Exhausted AND Nostalgic AND Impatient AND Content…
Each of these feelings is equally valid, you can’t distil it into one feeling.
This may be confusing but don’t worry that you are losing your mind.
In essence it is quite safe and a way to expand your (extra-)sensory perception and stretch your comfort zones.
Time to choose
All this input will push you to make choices. You are flowing over with potentials and you have to choose. That is the point of it all!
In fact, it is a way of helping you to become clearer about who you really are and releasing all that luggage you have been carrying around with you, such as how you were raised to always do what was expected and fears around showing who you really are.
With all that energy buzzing around, you simply have to choose.
You need to direct your energy
If you are a generalist and have many projects running in parallel, this is also likely to cause overwhelm at this time. The danger is that if you spread yourself too thin, you energy becomes so scattered you end up achieving nothing at all.
So the answer is to choose and then that dreaded word: FOCUS on one project that you really feel is worthy of investing your time and energy.

Which choices?
With all voices clamouring for attention, making choices is more easily said than done. What is most important at this time?

Lifestyle choices
These are bound to come to you at this time. These may include the structure of your life such as where you live and with whom.
Relationships
Who do you want to spend your life with, romantically but also in terms of colleagues and friends?
Any relationships where the exchange is not honest, balanced and a source of nourishment to both parties are likely to fall by the wayside.
Let that happen, you will not be able to carry other people at this time, it is all about you and what you have come to do in this world.
Health and appearance
Your body is likely to ask for your attention. It may feel restless, tense and heavy and your muscles may ache. Particularly sensitive areas are the nervous and digestive systems. Ground your body and send it messages of peace so that it feels supported in processing the energies of this time. If you need help, there is a free grounding meditation on the Lifetools Academy website. You may also choose to make significant changes to your appearance at this time.
Self Love
As we started off by saying, these energies come to help us reduce our reliance on mind energy so we can learn to live from a balanced Heart.
We need to release old emotion and experiences so that our Heart energy becomes a clean and safe space to be. As we clear away old judgments and pains, we grow to love ourselves as we are, including whatever scratches and dents we may have.

How to make a choice
So how do you make a choice when 4 voices are yelling at you?
The answer is simple. Trust your feeling.
We have concluded that your rational mind simply can’t work it out. It is like old-fashioned hardware that gets stuck trying to process the powerful new software of this time.
So take a deep breath and turn to your gut feeling with the question- what do I need to do right now?
Know that each step you take is for NOW. Don’t try to look into the distant future as that will put you right back into your mind. Just trust that each small right step will show you the overall direction.
You may also want to read my blog post: How do I know if I am doing the right thing?

Just a small warning here: following your feeling will ask you to take steps that you can’t rationally justify. That is the whole point! For instance your feeling may say you need to give up your job while your mind says you can’t do that without having another one.
If you feel very stressed about this type of decision, make sure that you seek the advice of someone who can help you interpret your feelings so that your mind can place what is happening. Choose someone you can trust who is willing to go further than pure logic and feel with you. This is an area where many coaches, healers and energy readers excel and their advice can be life-changing in such a transition period.
Living a feeling-based life is tricky and there are no guarantees. But your feeling tends to take a more holistic view of your needs than your mind.
The invitation for September leading into mid-October is to trust it!

With love,

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Lightworkers' Impatience

28/7/2016

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If you wonder where we are all going and if we are getting anywhere at all, you are not alone.
This is a time when we all seem to be suffering from what I call Lightworker's Impatience.

We came to Earth with great intentions to contribute to this period in history. The dawning of a new age. Deep in our souls we had received the call to aid the transformation of the Earth. To work through the veils of fear and limitation that have cast their shadows upon this Earth for centuries.

And we came. Maybe not willingly at first…
For most of us it took a good deal of persuasion to get us to return to this place which, though beautiful, has also left its scars on us through hundreds of previous lifetimes.

But out of love for Earth and for Humanity, we overcame our doubts and conquered whatever fears we had. After all: the most important time in history...
After everything we have been through, how could we miss out on this time? Within us a deep longing was awakened and we went for it.

So after decades of clearing work in this lifetime- clearing our past lives, our family energy, our work places, our relationships and the Earth in general…
Where are we now?

It is no exaggeration to say that we had expected something different.
We believed that those cords of fear would have felt less strangling by now. That the heaviness of the Earth, felt in every muscle of our bodies, would have lightened. We thought we would look around us at a cleaner, brighter world where the voices of fear and separation would have ebbed away…

Yet they are still here. In some ways, they seem stronger than ever.
And our outer circumstances are in many cases less rosy than we imagined too. Looking at the Lightworker community (for want of a better word), there are abundance issues, relationship problems and a curious sort of emptiness, resulting from the discovery that the careers we once began with much enthusiasm just don’t work any longer.

It is no wonder that we sometimes succumb to those thoughts that tell us that ‘something is not right’, and ‘the world is not going the way it should be.’
On a bad day, we may even get depressed, believing thoughts like ‘I am a failure’ and ‘My life has no meaning’…

Or in other words, ‘When transformation isn’t happening as fast as we hoped,
we may go ahead and blame ourselves, balancing on the very edge of giving up.’

So here’s the Truth. We have already come SO far. We have worked hard and the world has shifted to a vibration that no longer allows the deep-rooted, stuck energies of the past. The Earth has been shaken to the core to release its limiting and even oppressive energies.
If you dig up your garden to remove the weeds, it temporarily looks messier than before you began. It can’t be helped.

Is this then, a good time for us to take a dive into all the insecure and self-limiting energies of ‘Lightworkers’ Impatience’?
Or is this a time to hold the Highest Energy possible by trusting the process that we have started together? I emphasize together, because when things don’t go according to plan, I see us all retreating into our shell, waiting until the storm is over.

Instead, let us believe in ourselves and in what we are doing.
Let us support each other, helping fellow Lightworkers to keep their spirit high.
Let us just be in this process of transformation because that is the one contribution that we can give.

Let us be the ones to raise the energy and provide Stability and Hope.
Because if we can’t set down the energy of Peace at this time, where can we expect to find it?
If we don’t form the future energy of our civilization, how will it look?

So we may be tired… And we may be impatient…
But maybe this work is exactly what we came here to do!
Maybe this is the most important time of all, so let us give the very best energies we can give.

This video of the Silent Prayer by Tobias of the Crimson Circle helps us to remember who we are and to acknowledge the perfection of the moment. To really feel deep in our bones that it is all ok.
I suggest we watch it every time we have a fit of Lightworker's Impatience.

With much love,

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Facing old patterns? 7 tips for you!

21/4/2016

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Energy-wise, these are interesting times.
“May you live in interesting times” is an old Chinese curse,
but I promise I don’t mean this in the negative sense.
Having said that, I can’t say that I find the current energies easy.
All around me I notice that people are facing a lot of their
old patterns, again.

Do you know that feeling? All those things you thought you
had dealt with, are coming up to be faced;
'Oh NO, I still react the same way when I’m faced with this situation!!’
In my case I notice that I still stress, worry and sometimes become paralyzed when my Mind insists on finding the optimal solution to problems that can’t be optimally solved. When that happens, my Mind spins and goes around and around. I keep looking for answers and I don’t get any further.
Rabbits and headlights come to mind.

But there are good news too!
These 7 tips will help you appreciate the process of facing old patterns for the umpteenth time and be gentle with yourself in the process. It's all about your perspective:

Awareness
When you can observe yourself falling into the pattern, it means you are already well aware of it. You know yourself and you recognize your pitfalls and this means that you have come a long way from the days when you did everything automatically. Well done!
Choice
Having recognized an old pattern, you have a conscious choice.
Do I want to do what I always do? Or do I want to try something different.
Remember the saying; ”If you do what you did, you’ll get what you got!”
Clarity
If you find yourself falling into your old mental traps harder than ever, thank yourself. Apparently you have chosen to illustrate this habit really, really clearly so that you can no longer fool you or anyone else.
Progress
When you have hit rock-bottom and faced your habits this clearly, there is no going back. You have reached the point when definite change is the only option. Yeah, time to celebrate!
Main pattern
Finally you may judge, criticize or belittle yourself in the process, calling yourself names for repeating seeming mistakes or telling yourself you will never learn. If so, this is your number 1 old pattern to break!!
Notice this tendency, along with the thoughts and emotions that accompany it. Write them down.
Give it Time
Change requires gentleness, time and acceptance. When we are under pressure we fall into our shadow energies. So support yourself by allowing change to happen at exactly the pace it happens.
Trust!
If you can trust that life will bring you exactly what you need to mirror and trigger those things you need to work on, you do not need to apply any force in order to grow. Relax in yourself.
Know that by living each day as it comes, you are working towards your intentions. Life is good!

Next time I find myself panic-stricken, stressed or endlessly worrying about a decision, I’ll come right back and read this again. Here's hoping that these tips can also help you to be gentle with your beautiful selves.

With Love,

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What can you expect from your Family when you are in crisis? That very much depends on how you handle it.

9/11/2015

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As long as Life is going your way, you may not realise how important your Family is to you. They are a safe backbone and you may or may not see much of them, but you know they are there, comfortably in the background of your life.
It is when hard times hit you that you really come to see how much it means to have Family. As I have said earlier, to me Family is not necessarily a blood connection. It can also be those you choose to be really close to, those with whom you can let your guard down and who are in it with you for good times and bad.

When my first boyfriend and I broke up after a relationship of 10 years, I was heartbroken. We still loved each other very much, but it just didn’t work any longer. I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep and I was an emotional wreck.
This was really rock-bottom. What I had never realised before (because I was always working) was that I had no close friends, no real network and no family around me. I was in a foreign country where I didn’t speak the language. I had nowhere to go and no shoulders to cry on and I felt very, very alone. If it wasn’t for the understanding I received from my colleagues, I would have given up completely.

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10 tips for making decisions in complex situations

12/10/2015

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Are you unhappy in a particular area of your life but unsure about what to do?
When making decisions we often long for black and white clarity, but there are so many things to weigh and often our decisions affect a lot of people around us.
We can easily get stuck in our minds, thoughts circling with seemingly no way. out. So what to do? Here are some tips:

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Creating in the New and Natural Energy

19/3/2015

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Sometimes I wake up with so many ideas, so many possibilities that my head is literally buzzing.
“I’m going to write an article on this, but I need to work on the lovely purple painting, maybe I should get that group of women together that run their own businesses, but first I need to put this message on Facebook, wait, I want to call my Mother it’s been a few days, how about a cup of tea, first to the toilet, oh, dear we’re nearly out of toilet paper, need to do the shopping, what are we going to eat tonight, could I persuade my husband to eat out somewhere tonight, probably not, he is still tired from his bad cold, well, I’ll get something in later, for now let’s write this article I was thinking about…”

Do you know the feeling?? It just continues whirling around like some thick broth, probably with some gems of ideas in between all the usual practical and not so practical stuff. It is not so much that it doesn’t make sense, but the explosive energy of the possibilities makes it difficult to give any one idea enough focus and direction to complete it. Having visited a 100 ideas of what I can do with my life on a Saturday like today, I already feel exhausted and ready for a nap.
My Mind prefers order, sequence, direction, completion and the Peace and Satisfaction that generally come from knowing that I am doing the things I should be doing.

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As a Healer, I see the world as a World of Energy.
My views, thoughts and conclusions are based on this experience.
In these articles I share some of the interactions and observations that occupy my mind, in the hope that they inspire you on your journey.

Henriette Hackenberg

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